What people say to you or about you often says much more about them than you. Often times people will get an idea in their head, whether it be true or not, as to who you are and, no matter how much your words or actions differ from this perception, they will hold onto it for dear life.
I have come to the conclusion that I cannot make everyone happy, nor do I desire to. I know who I am and that’s enough for me. I know the path I’ve walked, I know my strengths and my flaws. Still a nasty comment can unsettle me for a moment.
It is in these moments that I have to remind myself who I am, what path I AM on, and that I am right where I’m supposed to be. Granted I always do a bit of self-reflecting, because sometimes another can give one insight into oneself, but at some point I still have to let go of their comments and actions.
This goes beyond forgiveness. It delves into the letting it go category. Most times these are people who are toxic and/or confused. They have grasped on to some concept about you that is flawed or entirely untrue and hold it within themselves as gospel. When I think of it this way I feel sad for them, not because they haven’t given me a chance but instead because I realize that this is the way they live and are with everyone. They cannot believe good in others because they cannot see it within themselves.
Most times people who speak ill of others or are critical or judgmental, are terribly unhappy. They are unwilling or unable to look within themselves to find happiness. They cannot accept others because they cannot accept themselves.
Often people who are critical or judgmental are either jealous or they are projecting their own flaws outward and seeing them in others even when they do not exist within those others.
So remember, the next time someone has something critical or untrue to say about you, it isn’t really about you. Let go of the anger, pain, hurt, resentment and ill feelings toward them and yourself. Send out positive thoughts or prayer for them if you are able.
Be strong in who you are. Have faith in yourself. Do not let another take your power with harsh words or untruths. What people say about you is their issue, not yours.